Reality...Life...

Have you ever wondered, why things are the way they are?
Have you ever been thru some experience or event that you question in the midst how you ended up in that state?
Have you ever made a choice to go thru some experience not even thinking or recalling that YOU MADE that choice? And somehow you ask yourself why do i need to go thru this or how did i ever get myself into this mess? or Why did God give me this to go thru?

Well, that's life! It's the real world we are living in. Not any other world..Yet at least...So we live!
Sub-consciously we make the choice, sometimes unknowlingly cos it is made less than a split second! It's like inbuilt in us. For example, as simple and mundane like leaving our house to go out somewhere, then locking the door behind you, well yeah, you might say it was taught to you thats why you lock it. But think, you still made that choice to lock it, without much thought..Why? for a simple reason, cos it protects the home and the ones we love...its keeps us safe...

What im trying to get here is that life is about the choices we are 'given' and the choices we make. Yes, some choices we make may frustrate us, and what we need to do is pray for the strength to overcome it...

Recently i made a really important choice in my life, cos it is 'MY LIFE' I am talking about...making a choice to love, and be loved is a really should i say challenging choice for anyone to take.

Childishness doesnt help us see life as it is...it may take us years to mature and be wise...some people think they're more mature at whatever age you're at, well, i say to you, all the best in your life. I maye sound care-less about what i just said, but dont you think that if anyone can say they are more mature than others of their own age, well, it speaks alot of themselves right? i guess one must be so 'FULL' of themselves that it boils down to immaturity, cos no matter what others say, it would be 'wrong' or may not be the right way of doing things...and well, in life, IF we dont listen to others opinions or ideas, and just want things 'Your own way' then I say that IS childishness!. Pause and think about it...
Being mature, somehow shows humility..being humble, people will tell you when you're mature or not from how you deal with human relations...being a good PR doenst necessarily mean you're good at handling peoples emotional barriers or insecurities, it could be the opposite, cos its a PR skill...it works in business, works with the MIND...such that it does not when it comes through with managing HEARTS of people...its when we use our hearts and confidence that shows maturity...Maturity is NOT GIVING IN either! That's being a doormat...I admit, i am a doormate at times or most of the times, and i know its one of a weakness i have...

I just got inspiration cos i was starting to feel lost and frustrated....Thank you Lord...
Genesis 6:14 "So make yourself an ark of cypress wood; make rooms in it and coat it with pitch inside and out.'

i will ponder on this and i believe it will help me work out what im facing during this times....

Im beginning to understand...its hard and i need to be strong...if i ......, i fall. Dear Lord, give me the strength i need. Be with me to guide me thru this. Help me give hope....Thank you Lord for showing me the way of life.

Ok, let me share this...protect the one protecting cos they probably need it more than the protected...why? Cos its human nature to do things for others how we want things to be done for us...right? thats relaly true, cos what we carry out things in life is they way we know how to and it is really, for OURSELVES, it may seem like its for others, but slow down, look deeper... we do things our way cos its the way we do it, and the way we do it, makes us feel settled, makes us feel right, makes us feel safe, like it the was we want it to be...see how it all relates to 'ME'.."I'...
If we really want to make someone happy, we do things their way, (AT TIMES definately) so make them happy...I'll explain 'at times' a little later, cos that brings in values...

Change comes from realization, not from someone. No one can change you but yourself!
You get into a relationship(of any kind, by choice or not by choice) thinking you can change someone, NO! it wont happen...thats life! We need to accept others as they are and not try to change them cos maybe we dont like the way they respond to us or when an argument sets in that may not necessarily be how one likes to argue or percieve how an argument should be like according to themselves, whether we like it or not, we have to let nature take its course, how a volcano erupts, we cant do anything about that nature, and all we can do is let it erupt and calm down, and deal with it humbly...however, since we are humans, we have the capability to control...so if an argument arises, if one has to raise voices, give them some space and let them release some steam cos it has to, law of nature...but not to the extent of hurting someone or being violent....so as humans, after some steam has been released, we can then be reminded nicely and politely without being rude, we naturally calm down and regain control over our emotions....i.e. Person A: "raised voices and getting a point across....." Person B: "I understand that you area angry or upset about...could we maybe calm down and talk about it without raising our voices?" then give it sometime to cool off (REALLY, really give it and the person some time to cool off, the time that Person A needs could differ for Person B, so chill and be patient)....then calmly and politely talk it through....if it doesnt, repeat and be patient and understand each others needs...Pray!

Life experiences changes people, cos of self-realization..not cos of someone...
When people say they wanna change for that someone you love...its not entirely wrong to do that, but see, if you use someone and say hey, im gonna change for you, then on what basis or value are you changing for??? Out of love? love isnt a value, love is a feeling...we change or people change because of life's reality...a realization of one's life and the value of life, or the value of maybe respect, or responsibility...yes we may say, respect or responsibility is easy! whats there to realize? Well, you're got to experience it for yourself then...i cant help you with that, God can...Ok, for example, responsibility, how to realize responsibility, its not because of some simple experience that we go thru say, teacher asks you to do homework, but you didnt get things done, and so you face the consequences, and well, you learn from the consequence. Yes, this is a small small learning experience for most of us who have matured thru thta stage...but what im really talking about is the life-changing experiences for us to BE BETTER people, like almost losing our life or losing someones life because of some huge issue, and the consequence is alot larger, and so self-realization sets in and we change our ways..in a bigger way...

Yes, we may get to this point and say, yes, ive been thru ALOT! more than others, and so ive realized alot more than others in this life..so im more mature than others..well, hhmm..yeah, you got it right to a small extent...thats ok to feel that way for a while...but if it starts to make you think you're better than others and get so full of yourself...ha! thats when you're not so mature anymore...you've become too proud of yourself that you look down at others or think they are no better than you...HUMBLE YOURSELF NOW! thats' why pride is a sin....a thin line crossed, makes us turn away from the light and into darkness..meaning to turn away from people and look only at ourselves, turn away from opennes and into closing, and soon we're all alone again...
We have to keep on going and humbling ourselves along after every realization, and stay humble....Cos the Humble will be made great!
(but dont want to be humble cos we want to be great, thats not the right way too, cos thats being selfish, and thats not being humble altogethe, defeats the purpose or being humble!)

God let us go through that experience cos he needed us to so that we can help each other or a stranger thru the similiar ordeal, so that we ease the pain of someone, so we give them hope to live and carry on with life, and hopefully it gets passed on....but God does not make us proud old farts that think so highly of ourselves till we 'lose' the essence of the meaning of life and its realization for change...thats NOT LIFE...not being REAL....So we pick ourselves up from the learning, help and feel good, then humble ourselves and prepare again for a bigger challenge to face life head on, strong, mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually...

Ive got to go....sometimes we just need to "walk away"...no explanation....Leave it to God...