Trust...

What makes us not trust someone or something?
Pains and traumatic experiences we went through?
A Need to see before we believe and trust what we see?
The need to know that, that something is a "sure-winner" and we then trust?
Just an innate belief that we just have with no answer? (More likely in children)
From what we were taught and how we were brought up?
What?
My take, from experiences...im sure most will agree with me...haha...*winks*
We learn, we get hurt, we gain knowledge.. we dont do things or go near things or people that hurt us...cos we are afraid to hurt again and want to hide or run away from the pain...
Painful hearts....Trust is dampened..(Its not so much physical pain im referring to...but emotional pain)

Well, It shouldnt be the case....its crazy to say or see...but when we are hurt, that is when we should put it out there... vulnerability is something that God could use to help us grow in maturity and spiritually....cos its when we are frankly truthful to ourselves, thats when we realise life's lessons to be learned....The pains and sufferings we go thru is not as trying as the one Christ went thru...We have our own crosses to carry and the load we have planned out for us is never too much for us to handle...Given God's grace, we will get thru it...so Trust more even if it hurts....hhmm...its hard to say at times..i agree...i still choose to trust when i want to.. hahaha...

I trust too easily, i used to think and i know...i guess when i was younger, i trusted more easily and readily...i still do...my thoughts, i believe that i can trust you until you you break that trust...then again, there is a guard up for certain people we meet...is that not trust? or is it just a gut feeling that we get thru our sixth senses...or is there a psycholgical explanation behind this? complicated when we rope in more thoughts and questions...when we start to think, we feel more and when we feel more, somehow or rather i guess we tend to be in protective mode, either for ourselves from others or protect others from others....
Why? what is it that made or makes that "wall" trust...
We need to trust others...if they wanna take advantage..let them.. they will be dealt with...i know it sounds kinda silly when we know that we can do something about it when we are taken advantage of...but why? to get back at someone cos they hurt you? They would already be hurting yourself in the long run with out you knowing..sub-consciously it left a mark cos of the pain imprinted....
So should we let this get to us? Because of what someone did to us to hurt us so badly, you then again take it out on others who come along? is that fair? of course i understand that,
but when we learn to forgive and open our hearts to others around, then only do we gain more trust with ourselves and the people around us... share thoughts and feelings...thats what builds relationships...bonds, rapport...ultimately.. Love....
I fear...that is my weakness that i need to overcome...