Irrational Beliefs vs Truth
Sometimes in life, things happen for reasons, and though at that mmt in time, it seems all so helpless and pointless ...that at times, we ask WHY? why does it have to happen to him or her...and why not me? to take away the pain from that person suffering...he/she doesnt deserve it...i do...and of course many other thoughts....
well, i used to think this way too, and its not wrong...its just the state of mind and circumstance that we are in...i used to ask God why does it have to happen to him? he's so young and has a whole life ahead of him..and i plead and ask that God takes this pain away from him and pass it to me, so he doesnt have to suffer....
It was only years after that realization fell into place...but it was after much pain and experience and faith that lead us to this realization...i guess i did share it in my very early part of my blog posts...
I believe that someone who feels someone's pain has empathy...and thats wonderful, and when this empathy translates to wanting to do something and actually 'ACT' to alleviate the pain and suffering of that person, its an act of compassion, and thats what i pray many or most human beings will come to senses at, so that the world would be a better place.
However, so, this doesnt seem to be the case for many, and i can speak for the culture in Singapore...too fast paced and thus, majority seeks to be the best in the 'Money' context. it is sad...even some of my students feel that way, they need to be earning alot of money etc....you get the drift yeah...
And then there are some people who get the empathy and then wish they take the pain instead... like what i read awhile ago..i can relate to this person infact cos as i shared, i was in the same situation... whether or not, this person is truely saying it with meaning, thats another story... But somehow, we reflect and think, do we really want that to befall on us? just cos we think we are not fit or should i say, not worth living or 'its-better-if-i-get-this-instead-of...' what im really trying to put forth is that, while it is good(and humble) that we feel and think selflessly, we must not also think that we are any less deserving to live...to say that 'give me his/her problems' and that will make things better..in fact, it doesnt or wouldnt...cos what or who's meant to get what in life, is planned...and for us to understand this is important....yes, we do have freewill to choice in our lives, thats what is in the plans for us in this World. This BIG Plan in our lives is guided by God, thru people, nature and all things around us...how we look at a situation and have faith that we need to be positive and make choices with our heart and sometimes our heads...the 'right' choices...and yeah, we might say or ask, what is 'RIGHT', whats right to me may not be right to someone else.. thats true too...well, its up bringing and beliefs taught and passed down by elders, parents, guardians, friends, etc..that make us this think and act in certain ways.. for example, we might be taught /have experienced that" im the cause of the unhappiness around me, so if anything bad happens to anyone, i should be the one getting the blame or suffering"...or "its never my fault, others should be responsible in guiding me", or "everyone is doing it..." or "I must have my child's love and approval'.... NO, thats not true...i believe that these are irrational thoughts...however so these thoughts and feelings, may be irrational beliefs and are in grained in our system (Minds) that we think in strange ways..im not saying it is bad..its just the way life is...and i guess, we've got to believe and learn to follow whats right in our hearts...which im not saying is easy either...All we need is learn and have Faith,Hope and Love in our hearts and it shall and will guide us with the right ways that God has planned for us.
It might be alittle hard to understand why and what, but in time we will understand, like how im also learning, im not saying that whatever im sharing is what is 'right' but im just sharing is thru my learning experiences with God and how He has guided me thru many life's lessons and 'Heart' rules....Our hearts know whats right...like when we do something 'wrong' and it someone 'aches' or egdes you to tell you somethings not right about this thing, or like something tells you, 'hey, i shouldnt be doing this' yeah, thats 'it'...thats the 'right'...i wont explain an deeper cos it prolly would confuse people or maybe myself.. so yeah...do what feels right, not for yourself ONLY, but the sake of the GOOD of others and oneself....reflection helps...reflection on feelings and actions....cos when we reflect, it is time with ourselves and thats when God can speak with us or to us...well, thats what i believe and know... :) God speaks to us in silence with a clear mind...Be calm....
well, i used to think this way too, and its not wrong...its just the state of mind and circumstance that we are in...i used to ask God why does it have to happen to him? he's so young and has a whole life ahead of him..and i plead and ask that God takes this pain away from him and pass it to me, so he doesnt have to suffer....
It was only years after that realization fell into place...but it was after much pain and experience and faith that lead us to this realization...i guess i did share it in my very early part of my blog posts...
I believe that someone who feels someone's pain has empathy...and thats wonderful, and when this empathy translates to wanting to do something and actually 'ACT' to alleviate the pain and suffering of that person, its an act of compassion, and thats what i pray many or most human beings will come to senses at, so that the world would be a better place.
However, so, this doesnt seem to be the case for many, and i can speak for the culture in Singapore...too fast paced and thus, majority seeks to be the best in the 'Money' context. it is sad...even some of my students feel that way, they need to be earning alot of money etc....you get the drift yeah...
And then there are some people who get the empathy and then wish they take the pain instead... like what i read awhile ago..i can relate to this person infact cos as i shared, i was in the same situation... whether or not, this person is truely saying it with meaning, thats another story... But somehow, we reflect and think, do we really want that to befall on us? just cos we think we are not fit or should i say, not worth living or 'its-better-if-i-get-this-instead-of...' what im really trying to put forth is that, while it is good(and humble) that we feel and think selflessly, we must not also think that we are any less deserving to live...to say that 'give me his/her problems' and that will make things better..in fact, it doesnt or wouldnt...cos what or who's meant to get what in life, is planned...and for us to understand this is important....yes, we do have freewill to choice in our lives, thats what is in the plans for us in this World. This BIG Plan in our lives is guided by God, thru people, nature and all things around us...how we look at a situation and have faith that we need to be positive and make choices with our heart and sometimes our heads...the 'right' choices...and yeah, we might say or ask, what is 'RIGHT', whats right to me may not be right to someone else.. thats true too...well, its up bringing and beliefs taught and passed down by elders, parents, guardians, friends, etc..that make us this think and act in certain ways.. for example, we might be taught /have experienced that" im the cause of the unhappiness around me, so if anything bad happens to anyone, i should be the one getting the blame or suffering"...or "its never my fault, others should be responsible in guiding me", or "everyone is doing it..." or "I must have my child's love and approval'.... NO, thats not true...i believe that these are irrational thoughts...however so these thoughts and feelings, may be irrational beliefs and are in grained in our system (Minds) that we think in strange ways..im not saying it is bad..its just the way life is...and i guess, we've got to believe and learn to follow whats right in our hearts...which im not saying is easy either...All we need is learn and have Faith,Hope and Love in our hearts and it shall and will guide us with the right ways that God has planned for us.
It might be alittle hard to understand why and what, but in time we will understand, like how im also learning, im not saying that whatever im sharing is what is 'right' but im just sharing is thru my learning experiences with God and how He has guided me thru many life's lessons and 'Heart' rules....Our hearts know whats right...like when we do something 'wrong' and it someone 'aches' or egdes you to tell you somethings not right about this thing, or like something tells you, 'hey, i shouldnt be doing this' yeah, thats 'it'...thats the 'right'...i wont explain an deeper cos it prolly would confuse people or maybe myself.. so yeah...do what feels right, not for yourself ONLY, but the sake of the GOOD of others and oneself....reflection helps...reflection on feelings and actions....cos when we reflect, it is time with ourselves and thats when God can speak with us or to us...well, thats what i believe and know... :) God speaks to us in silence with a clear mind...Be calm....
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Saturday, April 05, 2008
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